I am good at teaching, but not always so good at living what I teach -- and that is exactly why I teach. Teaching holds me accountable to what I say and do. I was late-in-life learning a lot of things – like Goal Setting and Planning – but self-evaluating was ingrained in me as a child.
During my West Virginia wonder years we gathered on Sundays at our little circuit-rider United Methodist Church. Each Communion Sunday the pastor emphasized the sacredness of the sacrament and the value of self-evaluation. You know, to make sure we were living right; that we weren't harboring any lies, didn’t need to apologize for, or “lest something worse come upon you.”
Thankfully, my Aunt Erma explained that self-evaluation is not dumping guilt on yourself, but is taking responsibility for our missteps. If we don’t own up to our part of the problem, then it leads us to stack attack misbehavior that hurts us and others.
The purpose of self-evaluation is to see our self as we really are, so we can either keep on a good path or take corrective steps. It’s all Total Behavior. What we think, what we do, how we feel about our thinking and doing, effects of physiology and our mental health and our sleep, our digestion, our energy level and our relationships and our success and…
In other words, everything within us touches everything about us and everything we do effects everything we do. To stay whole and healthy, self-evaluation is a discipline I practice daily.
Self-evaluation is tied in with the Ten Axioms of Choice Theory Psychology.
So what are the benefits?
- Challenge you to excellence
- Lessens dependency on the approval of others
- Promotes healthy competition
- Encourages non-judgmental judgment (see Axiom #2)
- Ask and answer tough questions
- Live in the present