Overcoming Self-Sabotage

In most instances, we are our own worst enemy. That is not to say that others did not play a part; but the bottom line is, we are each self-determining.

Challenge the naysayers. Dreams are fragile and easily crushed, especially when spoken against by those held in high esteem. Were they really discouraging you or trying to prepare you for obstacles? Did you allow their self-doubt and their lack of personal success to place limitations on your goals? Are those voices still relevant? How have you grown in maturity, skills, knowledge, experience and abilities?

Face down fear. In the immortal words of President Franklin D. Roosevelt, “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” Someone defined F E A R by the acronym = False Evidence Appearing Real. Just as darkness flees when light appears so too fear tucks tail and runs when faith boldly steps up to bat.

Refuse to settle. As with most words, “settle” has both a positive and negative connotation. To resolve an issue to bring peace is one thing; to give up without paying the price to overcome is entirely another. Instead of pausing to rest and rejuvenate, did you repress and rust? Shake off the lethargy and get back in the game.

Move past disappointments. The failure was real, the hurt was painful, the results were embarrassing and the experience was ego-deflating. But that was yesterday and this is a new day. The sun came up again confirming a new opportunity to go forward. I will not be so chevalier as to suggest getting-over the trauma, but for the good of you and the universe, please move past it.

Sheer up your confidence. As baseball great Satchel Page said, “You win a few, you lose a few and some get rained out. But you gotta dress for all of ‘em.” Life goes in cycles. Reach deep down inside and find the courageous to be the wonderful person you are. Suit up. Show up. Speak up. Stand up. Rise up and overcome.

Tap into your creativity. God did not make junk and He did not make human beings without imagination. Without vision it is easy to stay small. Focus your mind’s eye to see possibilities and to formulate plans for accomplishment.

Get a goal and go. A goal is more than a wish. A goal is a carefully thought through plan of action that is put to paper and placed into reality. The very act of writing it down gives it legitimacy. It lets you see, feel and experience the reality while still in the formative stages. A goal releases energy to keep on keeping on.

It is time to become your own best friend. By reading this article you sense the urgency to conquer those things that have interfered with your success. Do not let the momentum pass. Do it now. Take the steps to overcome.

Please share your comments. I'd love to hear from you. Blessings, Mona